We have examined workplace bullying in terms of rape, abortion
and terrorism; but these are not the only pictures that can be used to
describe this workplace evil. Another picture is prostitution. This was
not a picture that I would have used until I met up with a former
colleague within the sector in which I had worked for twelve years
during our holidays in Spain. She had told me of how she had worked
within a 'caring' profession for some years, and was forced to leave the
work that she loved doing. She told me she had been treated like a
prostitute by her former employer.
What did she mean by that? She meant that she had been 'used' and 'abused' by that 'caring' employer, and when the employer got all it needed from the employee, she was unceremoniously dumped. She felt used and abused by her employer; she was still very angry about what had happened; and her anger surfaced in our conversation. Was that an unusual experience by employees in today's workplace? Hardly.
The author can identify all too easily with this lady's experience. He had been taken for a sucker for many
years. He had been 'used' by his employers to get as much as he could from various sources for their own selfish gratification, while all the time giving the impression that they were supporting him in his work. They took all for themselves, and when they got all that, and more, they dumped him as of no further use to them.
On top of all this, they did not want anyone else to benefit from the good work that the Target had done over the years. Bullies want to destroy their victim so that they can not be productive ever again. They got what they wanted, and 'to pot' with everyone else. It seems that when bullies fear that they are about to be found out, they act speedily to disadvantage the Target who was the recipient of their vicious behaviour.
Being used as a man 'uses' a prostitute is utterly degrading and very, very painful. It is so difficult to speak about, because the Target is unlikely to be understood or his/her story given any credence. To be used for a while, then when all the gratification is received, to be dumped, is awful. Or, to change the metaphor a little, what does a smoker do when he retrieves his last cigarette from the packet? He dumps the packet as of no further use to him. Here is even an element of disgust on the part of the 'user' that wants the 'used' to be removed from his sight as quickly and as permanently as possible.
This is precisely what workplace bullying does, and how it operates. The bully uses the target as a man uses a prostitute - he gets his moments of pleasure, and then dumps her. The bully sees a certain desirableness in the Target, 'lusts' after them for a while, wins their confidence, then - BANG - hits them really hard. Where you find this has happened to you, there is a fair likelihood that you have been bullied at work.
What did she mean by that? She meant that she had been 'used' and 'abused' by that 'caring' employer, and when the employer got all it needed from the employee, she was unceremoniously dumped. She felt used and abused by her employer; she was still very angry about what had happened; and her anger surfaced in our conversation. Was that an unusual experience by employees in today's workplace? Hardly.
The author can identify all too easily with this lady's experience. He had been taken for a sucker for many
years. He had been 'used' by his employers to get as much as he could from various sources for their own selfish gratification, while all the time giving the impression that they were supporting him in his work. They took all for themselves, and when they got all that, and more, they dumped him as of no further use to them.
On top of all this, they did not want anyone else to benefit from the good work that the Target had done over the years. Bullies want to destroy their victim so that they can not be productive ever again. They got what they wanted, and 'to pot' with everyone else. It seems that when bullies fear that they are about to be found out, they act speedily to disadvantage the Target who was the recipient of their vicious behaviour.
Being used as a man 'uses' a prostitute is utterly degrading and very, very painful. It is so difficult to speak about, because the Target is unlikely to be understood or his/her story given any credence. To be used for a while, then when all the gratification is received, to be dumped, is awful. Or, to change the metaphor a little, what does a smoker do when he retrieves his last cigarette from the packet? He dumps the packet as of no further use to him. Here is even an element of disgust on the part of the 'user' that wants the 'used' to be removed from his sight as quickly and as permanently as possible.
This is precisely what workplace bullying does, and how it operates. The bully uses the target as a man uses a prostitute - he gets his moments of pleasure, and then dumps her. The bully sees a certain desirableness in the Target, 'lusts' after them for a while, wins their confidence, then - BANG - hits them really hard. Where you find this has happened to you, there is a fair likelihood that you have been bullied at work.
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