Identifying The Workplace Bully.

The following paragraphs will maintain that bullies, whether in the workplace, the community, the church, or in the home, just like alcoholics, are attention grabbing deceivers whose word cannot be trusted. They will be so wonderful at lying that others are 'taken in' by what they say. It appears that bullies assume entirely that what they say is the truth, even if confronted with indications to the contrary. It is true that one lie requires another to cover the first, and so on, until you are embroiled in a complexity that defies escape. They have been so engulfed in difficult or embarrassing situations of their own making, that, in order to get out of it, resort to deception.

Some of these situations are so complex that escaping from them requires great skills. And the trickier it is for them to get out of their predicament, the more aggressive they will become. This "survival instinct," when utilized by the average person will not be used to cause hurt; but when helpful to the workplace 'terrorist,' there isn't any acknowledgment of the discrepancy concerning what's morally right and what's morally wrong, the plan being to hurt the target, even to the point of seriously damaging his health. There is a ruthlessness about bullies that is frightening, and a callousness that is terrifying.

The 'modus operandi' of the workplace bully as they choose the target, is basically that they, the targets, are perceived to be dissimilar to the others; this might show itself in their being better looking, slower workers, possess superior certificates, well-liked by others both within and outside the workplace, and even successful. The list is vast; if a target is to be given "the treatment," then any pretext will do.

Of course, bullies usually are not recognisable by their outward appearance; the word, 'bully,' is not written on their faces, to ensure that most individuals can see exactly who they are and keep away from them.

Are there any clues as to how they might be recognised? The one certain way of identifying the bully is to observe how his/her acts towards others. With such evidence before you, you don't need me to explain to you the kind of character a bully definitely is. In my interactions with workplace victims, and listening to their stories and experiences, the one adjective that was used most often to illustrate the kind of individuals they and the activity really are, was 'evil.' Alternative connected ideas are: actual evil; utterly evil; decadent; bad; disgusting, corrupt.

Now you understand what that means. The conduct you've witnessed and experienced from these people can be evil. You have been exposed to evil and wickedness. You've passed through the harmful result of that kind of evil. Your daily life continues to be shattered; your health has long been challenged; your profession is jeopardised; plus your family and marriage were not left unscathed.