Do you know of anyone who volunteered to be a victim of rape, or
of child or domestic abuse, or of any other variety of abuse? I
certainly don't! Workplace bully is a traumatic experience that
emanates from a form of abuse of power and position. This abuse of power
and position is as real to the Target as any other form of abuse is. It
is no defence to allege they because physical harm is not done, the
abuse is not as bad.
The fact is that occasions have been recorded in which physical violence has resulted when the Target stood up for himself successfully. This is common in the school bus or playground, but is not nearly as common in the workplace.
But do bullied employees deserve what they get? Do children abused by parents, neighbours or priests deserve what they get? Or did the poor hapless victims of 9/11 in New York, of the tsunami in Indonesia, of the coal mine collapses in Chile and New Zealand deserve what they got? Do the poverty-stricken people in famine-stricken lands deserve what they get? The constant answer to these questions is a thunderous NO. No one deserves to suffer from these calamities.
By the same token, no one deserves to be treated in such an inhumane way by employers. If straight talking has to be done by a manager to a staff member, it has to be confined to the task in question, and not divert into personal attacks.
The 'silent epidemic' known as workplace bully is also the unrecognised pandemic of the twenty-first century. Even the suffering Targets often remain silent because they do not always know who they can trust; so suffering in silence is the best they think they can do. Targets do not enjoy what is being done to them, nor did they invite such negative attention. They experience these attacks and abuses as unwelcome, unpleasant, and uninvited. Someone else decided to expose them to this evil behaviour.
Yet when the perpetrators of such damaging behaviour are asked about it, they revert to outright denial. They pretend not to know anything about it. And why do they deny all knowledge of their behaviour? Because at heart they are cowards. They are very strong and fearless and abusive when there are no dangerous witnesses around to describe what they have done; but when they are accused of true cowardly actions towards another, their courage leaves them like snow off a ditch. It evaporates. Their behaviour is so disgusting that they cannot own up to it. It is indefensible and unjustifiable. And bullies generally do not have the requisite courage to stand over their actions.
So one very effective way to stop bullying is to take on the bully at his own game, to confront him head on, and to insist that such behaviour stops forthwith. Bullies do not like such resistance, so they learn quickly that such tactics will not work with this individual.
For further information, click the links and you'll be directed to my website. You owe it to yourself and to others to be as well informed as possible about this serious, life-threatening issue.
The fact is that occasions have been recorded in which physical violence has resulted when the Target stood up for himself successfully. This is common in the school bus or playground, but is not nearly as common in the workplace.
But do bullied employees deserve what they get? Do children abused by parents, neighbours or priests deserve what they get? Or did the poor hapless victims of 9/11 in New York, of the tsunami in Indonesia, of the coal mine collapses in Chile and New Zealand deserve what they got? Do the poverty-stricken people in famine-stricken lands deserve what they get? The constant answer to these questions is a thunderous NO. No one deserves to suffer from these calamities.
By the same token, no one deserves to be treated in such an inhumane way by employers. If straight talking has to be done by a manager to a staff member, it has to be confined to the task in question, and not divert into personal attacks.
The 'silent epidemic' known as workplace bully is also the unrecognised pandemic of the twenty-first century. Even the suffering Targets often remain silent because they do not always know who they can trust; so suffering in silence is the best they think they can do. Targets do not enjoy what is being done to them, nor did they invite such negative attention. They experience these attacks and abuses as unwelcome, unpleasant, and uninvited. Someone else decided to expose them to this evil behaviour.
Yet when the perpetrators of such damaging behaviour are asked about it, they revert to outright denial. They pretend not to know anything about it. And why do they deny all knowledge of their behaviour? Because at heart they are cowards. They are very strong and fearless and abusive when there are no dangerous witnesses around to describe what they have done; but when they are accused of true cowardly actions towards another, their courage leaves them like snow off a ditch. It evaporates. Their behaviour is so disgusting that they cannot own up to it. It is indefensible and unjustifiable. And bullies generally do not have the requisite courage to stand over their actions.
So one very effective way to stop bullying is to take on the bully at his own game, to confront him head on, and to insist that such behaviour stops forthwith. Bullies do not like such resistance, so they learn quickly that such tactics will not work with this individual.
For further information, click the links and you'll be directed to my website. You owe it to yourself and to others to be as well informed as possible about this serious, life-threatening issue.
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